Nowadays, many young people are getting married without being well prepared. The thing is that after awhile they decide to get a divorce because they do not like marriage and they realize they do not love each other and they are confused. However, for some couples their problems do not finish when they get divorced because many of them have children and the situation gets more complicated for them.
I am against teenager marriage because when teenagers get married, they are still too young to take on such a big responsibility. Well, what I have been able to observe with teenager marriages is that young people have more possibilities getting a divorce than an adult couple because a young couple has not finished studying yet, so they cannot have a good job to support a family. However, an adult couple has already studied and has a good job. Another fact, for young marriages failing is that these adolescents are not enough psychologically mature to live with another person forever. Many times adolescents get confused because they think when they like each other , this means love and they get married as soon as possible without thinking about whether they truly love each other.
What I think is that young people should finish their studies and get a good job to be able to face the responsibilities of marriage. Teenagers can meet more people to go out, to change their points of view about what they expect from life, to share their worries and joys in order to meet a right person to marry.
TRULY, ISN'T A GOOD IDEA TO GET MARRIED WHEN WE ARE YOUNG, I HAVE A FIEND THAT IS 22 YEARS OLD AND SHE HAD A BABY, BUT NOW SHE IS DIVORCED AND HAS A LOT OF PROBLEMS WITH HER FAMMILLY.
WE HAVE TIME FOR DO ALL THE THINGS THAT WE WANT FOR NOW IS STUDY AND ENJOY THE LIFE WITH OWN FRIENDS.
IN MY OPINION THE PERSONS SHOULD NOT GET MARRIED IF THEY AREN´T BE ABLE, BECAUSE THIS SITUATION CHANGE HER/HIS LIFE FOREVER,
TEENAGER SHOULDN´T HURRY......
BY MELISA 613A
In my opinion, girls that married very young is because they don`t feel well in their homes, sometimes theirs lives are very stressing, but that is not escuse to get married youg. Another cause is because they are mothers and they think that the one thing they could do is to get married, but they need to think about the decition they are takeing because its very difficult to have a baby alone or whit a couple that is so young too, they don`t have experience and is very sad to see that girls that think that is bether to get married than continue with the school.
I am not agree whith teenagers marriage, because, to have childrens is a big responsability, and teenagers aren´t ready for do it.
A young mother wants to has fun, and sometimes forgot that she is mother and that is not just for her son.
We have time for all.
Teenagers that get married , it is easy!, they dont expect anything from life, they dont know what they want. i have met a lot of couples in that situation ,they are diverced now , but the point is like they dont know, what they want, i mean they dont have ambicious and dreamings , they just let their lifes goes on.
there is a time for everything, and finally i thing that we have to be prepared for giving to our future family a better place to life.(something to offer)
I DESAGREE WITH THE ARTICLE BECAUSE NOWADAYS MANY YOUNG PEOPLE HAVE MORE EXPERIENCE THAN BEFORE AND THEY MEET PEOPLE (AS A SEXUAL COUPLE) SINCE THREETEEN OR FOURTEEN YEARS.
NOW, I THINK IS RESPONSABILITY OF THE PARENTS TO WATCH OVER THE BEHAVIOUR OF THEIR SONS AND DAUGHTERS BECAUSE SOMETIMES THEY SEARCH THE WAY OF DEPART OF THEIR HOUSES, IF THEY NOT FELLING THE LOVE OF THEIR PARENTS, ALTHOUGH THIS MINING GET MARRIED.
I THINK THAT THE MAIN REASON OF THE TEENAGER MARRIAGE IS BECAUSE MANY YOUNG PEOPLE HAVE A BIG PROBLEMS WHIT THEIR PARENTS OR MAYBE THE GIRL IS PREGNANT.ITS IMPORTANT THAT THE YOUNG PEOPLE HAVE A PROJECT LIFE.
WELL I THINK THAT IS BETTER LIVE IN FREE UNION THAN GET MARRIED , BECAUSE IF YOU LIVE IN FREE UNION YOU WONT TO GETTING A DIVORCE
HI!
I THINK THAT YOU HAVE REASON FOR THIS PROBLEM AND I THINK THAT THE PROBLEM WITH THIS IS THE EDUCATION AND VISION BECAUSE WHEN YOU IMAGINE YOUR FUTURE YOU THINK, WHAT DO I LIKE FOR MY LIFE? AND YOU BEGIN TO PLAN YOUR LIFE AND SOMETIMES NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE FORTUNE AND THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT HAVE PROBLEM WITH THEIR PARENTS AND THEIR AREN´T ANY SUPPORT.
BY CINTHIA CRUZ ARELLANES
I think the teenagers shouldn't marriage because they aren't ready for take a decision too complicated and they don´t know all the posibilities for a future life because they are too young and when teh live into a marriage they can't support the presure and explote, when they have childrens the problem is big and a lot of couples prefer to continue into their marriage and in a future they miss the time when they are free.
Karla NVC 815
I'm not agree whith the marriage, 'cause I think you don't need a piece of paper. But also I think the young people get married 'cause they want to escape of their parents.
Young people nowadays are in other world , they are really immature, maybe the tv and the bad care of the parents are doing that younger people be so immature.
But if we did not pay attention to them, the only way that younger people learn about life are making mistakes.
If we have children, we need to begin to teach them about this kind of problems and open their minds to this world.
Lo dijo ELIZABETH 813-A ESCA
IM 21 YEARS OLD AND FOR ME THE MOST IMPORTANT IN THIS MOMENT IS STUDY MY MAJER AND ENGLISH.
I WISH I GOT MARRIED AND HAVE A BABY BUT WHEN I HAVE A BETTER JOB AND MATURE FOR HAVE A FAMILY.
Well, I think not only the marrige is difucult for teenagers but also is for the rest of the couple; but the situation is worst for young couples because they can't support a family, and also because they aren't able to take such a big decision. But They are some couple that can fuction,and they can have a stable marriage, it depends the economical situation and also the love for each other.
I BELIEVE THAT THIS HAPPEN BECAUSE UNFORTUNATELY IN MEXICO THERE ISN´T ENOUGH EDUCATION TO INFORMATE TO PEOPLE ABOUT RESPONSABILITIES THAT THEY HAVE WHEN THEY GOT MARRIED, BESIDES THEY HAVE NOT FINISHED THEIR STUDIES AS FOR GET A JOB TO SOPPORT A FAMILY
Hi:
I believe that to marry young, it is cause of many divorces at this present time, so that they do not become aware of his acts, they think with the heart and not with the head. The truth I do not create much in the marriage, but if some want to marry young, since that does it and is happy.
In my opinion, the tennager married is a big social problem, because tennagers married is a mistake that produce another kinds of problems, like a abadoned child or unfunctional families. Today one thig to stop this problem, is about education and support of government, maybe if they Know another cases,and their consequences, maybe they didn´t
I'm thinking about the topic, and I can say young people sometimes is not inteligent because they acting without good reasons, just do it and that's all. Perhaps the goverment should prohibited the marriage to young people and maybe the situation in our country could be different and we can see less cases of divorce and problems in the families.
Hello! George
This is a good topic, as you said this problem is increasing nowadays. I don´t Know what is happened, I think the solution is that each parents, talk about this situation with his sons, and the most impotant they need to be nor only his parents, but also his friends, and try to listen when theirs feel good and bad.
I think the comunication with his parents it´s absolutely necessary. But rememeber that the last decision is for each one, if you want to get married it´s ok, but remenber that is a big engagement, so you need to be very sure, because after that, nothing is the same.
In fact I do not believe in the marriage) as a obligation, it must not be like that, ifyou want to live with a person will be for the love that is had not as the obligation to remain united. And it is a stupid thing mariege being teenagers, first you have to live, to go out with your friends, to amuse yourself, it will be you to mature, this way look you that to be alone isn't bad and it teaches you to know you. Small maturity that you have being a teenager it makes to you blind you with the love, but it is necessary to remember that the love musn't be a obssesion with a person but is share your life with another person and for it ,not necessarily you have to marry
In my particular opinion I would`nt get married until I finish school and I have the possibility to get a great job. I think I`m going to get married when I will be 32 or 35 and when I know at least four languages. and I know a lot of people around the world I want to travel and enjoy my life, because after I won`t have time.
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My opinion about this situation is that teenagers don´t have enough experience and make a big mistake.
This happen around seventeen and eighteen years old, and the regular reasons of this are violence at home, a bad comunication with their parents but most important the easy way they think the marriage gonna be.
Hello George,
I agree with your comments, I think when people get married very young have many possibilities to fail and this situation could cause a terrible trauma when they are mature enough, because probably they could have done a lot of things in the appropriate age, of course, never is late, but it could have been much better.
I think you have the reason. I think It`s very important to study, to meet new people and overcoat It`s important to look for a good job before you get married.
Sometimes young people believes that the love is all, but sadly sometimes the love finishes and then the problems begin.
I think there isn`t an specific age for the marriage, but you have to think in all the responsabilities that it produces before you decide to do that.
Hello George:
I agree with you because nowadays teenagers get married with another person because they feel love at the moment but that is transient.
That attitude has difficult consecuences that teenagers aren't disposed to face up.
I NOT AGREE WITH MARRIAGE, TEENAGERS OR ADULT MARRIAGE. I DON´T HAVE MORE TO SAY ABOUT THIS.
In my opinion one of reason for the teenagers for get married is because maybe they have problems in their houses with their parents and they think that the best solution is go out, but they don't think that if they marriage they have more problems and responsabilities and they don't have the mature to face up.
Nancy Pacheco.
Well, I don't like the topic about marriage but today I try to give my opinion about this topic.
I think that is a big desicion in our lifes but, most of teenager doesn't thinks in the importance of marriage and choose a good person for you and only get a engage for have someone, without think that is a engage forever.
It is my opinion ....
Hi. Well, I was thinking about this article and I agree with you,
because the young people doesn't have expirience for take an
important decision like the marriage. I'm an adolescent and
obviously I was in love many times, and maybe I thought that it was
a good idea, because maybe I felt confortable and didn't think in
the responsibilities that I will have, with my wife, with my family
and obviously with myself. I hope one day marry with the perfect
person for me, but too when this moment arrives I will be prepare
economically,fisically, and mentally, to make her happy, and to
live a normal life and to be happy the rest of my life. I hope that
other people think in good way take this desicion, because the pain
is for their children, and their family too. The love is the most
beutiful feeling in this world please enjoy it with responsibility,
don't suffer, the life is very easy, don't meke it hard. Thanks
In my opinion, when we are young we make the things careless and
that's why we fail in some things. Because we don't think what we
are doing, we just want to do it and we don't care about the
problems that will cause us. We don't pay attention at the advices
that people give us. What I think we can to do is thinking
carefully and we will be right.
I think that teenagers want to get marriage because they have a lot
of problems, specially in their houses and they think that if they
leave their home, they will be better. Teenagers are immatures,
they don't think about consequences only in the moment. In other
hand exist some teenagers that think carefully how can they make a
decision.
I´m agree with you George on been against teenager marriage. When
you are pretty young you fall in love several times and you want to
explore your body and experiment different circumstances, I think
that love is a marvelous feeling and we have to enjoy it, but also
we have to be conscious on what are we doing, because nowadays the
problem is not to be pregnant, you can survive, but problems come
when you get an strange illness like A.I.D.S because is then when
your life is in danger and you can die.That´s why I recommend that
when you start your sexual life you have to be responsable and take
care of your body and visit the doctor in order to be sure that
everything is O.K. Don´t leave it for tomorrow bacause tomorrow
will be late.
I´m agree with young people don´t have experience they don´t know
the resposibilities and sometimes don´t have an idea what marriage
is . Because get married It isn´t live with the person that you
love, you share you life,your routines the things that you will
do,your defects and other things. The commitment is bigger when you
have a child and if you are young maybe you don´t understand the
responsibility that is to have a child and bring him up or get
married and why not they confuse real love with attraction, or they
take the decision because they have problems in their homes and the
only thing that they want is get away. I think if you want to marry
with someone is because you love him/her and you have the mature to
do it and you understand the meaning of marriage It´s not only a
party or live whit your soulmate It´s more than that.
A teenager marriage sounds strange, but it is a reality and we have
to avoid it, because they realize before that it was a bad idea and
is too late, due to they have children and they are the most
affected. I agree with you George, we have to finish a major, then
get a job and finally when we are mature and we have a good
solvency economic, we will be prepared to develop a family.
I agree WITH YOU, ITHINK THAT THEY HOPE IT WILL BE LIKE IN A SOAP OPERA & THEY WILL SURVIVE ONLY WITH LOVE, ITS OK IF THEY WERE ONLY TWO BUT THEN THE CHILDREN COME, & NEED FOOD, SCHOOL, CLOTHES ETC.
I think it doesn´t matter the age of the persons who get married, I think it depends of the reasons of getting married, I know 30-years-old persons or even older who get married because of a pregnancy of some other reason, no because they really want to spend all their life with somebody else.
And I know teenagers who get married and they live totally happy because it was what they really wanted to do.
We have to learn not generalize because if we have not experiment the situation how can we be objective?
I'm not married, but I believe nobody experiment in someone else's head, getting married while we are teenagers is a risk but we have to take it if we want to express an opinion basen in reality not in what we have ear, see or read.
Hi everybody!!!
It's not the same to say "I invite you to the cinema and to the park for a walk than inviting you to the doctor to check your health , I pay appointments, i give you money for children, I pay for what you eat and dress...!" etc. So i think there must be an conscious exam among teenagers who want to get married too young because it's not he same to fancy a person than to love a person an to assume more responsibilities in marriage. Some of 'em feel eager to make love and to be loved from another one , but that's not enough when you try to live with him/her. So i think it's important to think over it and to think if the main cause of marriage is pregnancy or because you really want to share LIFE!!!!
Paulina Liliana Hernández 1015A ESCA Sto Tomás
Integrated skills
I think like you,I am against teenager marriage because when you are very young you are immature you cannot see clearly, for you everything is easy.
How you said, the situation is more complicated when they have children.
The children are going to suffer because of their parents.I feel bad because of them, they are going to grow with different kind of problems that are going to affect their personality.
The young couples do not have enough education, they do not finish their studies because they have to be mothers or fathers.
Imagine, if you cannot with your own life how are you going to take after someone else?
jorge i am sorry about saying you teacher i think that you want us to say you as your name is and not as TEACHER sound i respect your ideas so about the comments of this reading is to have concience about the age we have , we are already start living we are knowing alot of things, people and all taht stuff . we have to be patient and choose the best person for us but all at the time of god he knows all about us and he and only he can decide of our destiny. eva level 10
In my opinion getting married so young is not the best option, because you aren´t enough mature and also you don´t have enough resources in order to take care for a family and offer them a good life.
So the point here is that all depends of your vision.If you have a plan for your life you are going to fight in order to reach it, but if you don´t have anything on mind. obviously your future will be uncertain, and maybe during your adolescence could appear a person who "loves to you" and then you´ll get married.
It doesn´t matter if you have problems with your parents or maybe if you think that you are alone and you need a person in order to be happy.(because I know that these are the main reasons about getting married so young)I believe more in the strength of the humans in order to go out of their problems and improve themselves.
So in this case the question could be :What do you expect of your life?
well, i think that teenager marriage is a bad potion because young people doesn´t be prepared and sometimes they don´t have a good economic situation, i think that these people only want to practice sex and that´s all.
I think that marriage in teenagers is not only because they want to do it, sometimes they get married because they have to. I think most of young marriages are because the girl is pregnant and their parents tell them that they have to marry each other. On the other hand exist people that want to get out of their houses and think that getting married is the best way.
As the article said teenagers are non mature, so it's very difficult to face out the responsabilities of marriage. In this age they like getting out with their friends, going to parties and all those things that younger people enjoy.
Hi! teacher
I think that when the young people are getting married isn't because the couple want, is only because they have to do it; and why?,
because they decide get married because the girl is pregnant or for reasons diferent to love, for example; for interest.
Hello! teacher
This item is very important nowadays, because when the people are young don´t think in the consecuenses because -in my personal opinion- I think that to get married is the most important decision in the life because if you make a mistake with your couple, you will have to face the situation and it´s possible that in some partners the result is not good.
I like this article.
thanks.
I am not agree with that because teneeger think that everyrhing is very easy because they think that they are fill in love , but in many cases is only phisically. For thar reason exist a lot of divorces.
I don't believe in teenagers marriages because they aren't prepared. I have many examples in my family about that kind of couples and I can say that their lives are limited and difficult and it is worst when they get married because of a baby. They don`t finish a grade and after that, they have to work and receive an insignificat salary, and this, doesn't serve for anything.
But, in the other side, I believe in love. If you get married falled in love and you discovered that someone is the person who you want to share all with, is wonderful! and it doesn't matter if you are very young, just think it very well before to take a decision.
That's all. See you. Have a nice day!
hello!!!
teenager marriage is a very bad topic...
I say that, because I have two cousins who are already married and have their babies.
I think is a bad idea, because I see than my cousins are having problems, they dont have enough money, they live with their parents, they study and work, they are worried about many things ....
one of my cousins said that the love that has with her couple was enough in order to be happy forever, now he say that you have to be very mature and responsable..
hello¡
nowadays this is a good topyc in our society, bucause a big percentage of teenagers get married very youngers. for me the reason is the education, and the treat of the parents because sometimes look a exit when have a bad treat or when don´t have love and attention.
only look leave and found other kind of live but sometimes foud worse things.
and finish being unwed mothers with out studys
HI!
I AGREE WITH YOU WHEN YOU ARE TEENAGER IS A CONFUSING PERIOD BACAUSE YOU DO NOT KNOW IF YOU ARE CHILD OR ADULT. YOU ARE IMMATURE SO, GET MARRIED IS NOT A GOOD DECISION.
THERE ARE TWO WAYS. WHEN ARE MARRIAGES FOR COMPROMISE DUE TO CHILDREN, THE PARENTS FORCE THEM TO GET MERRIED WHEN THEY DO NOT WANT.THE OTHER WAY, WHEN TEENAGER WANT TO GET MARRIED FOR THEIR OWN DECISION BUT THEY DO NOT HAVE A BASE TO CREATE A FAMILY. THEY HAVE NOT FINISHED THEIR STUDIES, DO NOT HAVE MONEY, ETC.
THERE IS TIME FOR EVERYTHING.
OOOOOHHHHH MY GOD
WHAT HAPPENS NOWADAYS WITH YOUNG PEOPLE, IT´S LIKE A COMPETITION FOR THE RECORD GUINESS "YOUNGER PEOPLE MARRIAGE". WELL IN MY PERSONAL OPINION IT´S THE GREATEST STUPID ACTION IN TEENAGERS, THEY DON´T KNOW HOW TO LIVE WITH REAL RESPONSABILITIES, AND HOW TO BROKE THE "INFORMAL RELATION SHIP" TO A REAL COMPROMISE....
SORRY I JUST CAN´T IMAGINE THAT SITUATION IN MY LIFE
Hello!!!
I believe than nowadays the adolecentes are not responsible, due to the education that they have received from their childhood, probably this problem has existed always, but today with expression freedom , the young people are most opener in topics like sexuality and I believe that the bad education influences in them, since young people begin to practising the sex at early age, they believe that it´s ok because is fashionable.
I´m desagree too with the marriage of young people because most of them aren´t already for encourage. In general they think only in the momentbut not in the future.