Have you ever regretted doing something you should not have done or something you did not do which you have? At one time or another we probably all have. There is no time in getting depressed about it now. It is no use crying over spilt milk. However, there may be some gain in thinking about exactly what happened and why because we might be able to draw conclusions for the future. One thing we all do now and again is to lose our temper with a friend or close relatives. The odd thing is that we more often display great anger towards someone we are fond of than towards strangers. The explanation may be that we see friends and relatives as a kind of safety net, an opportunity to let off a bit of stream in a safe environment, whereas the consequences of insulting a stranger or a staff at work could be far more serious.
Being honest is usually thought as a virtue and undoubtedly this is the case. On the other hand, we have all experienced occasions when we have spoken our minds to someone, telling them exactly what we feel, and then have found ourselves overcome with feelings of guilt and remorse. Perhaps we should have kept our mouths shut.
Well,
I think that, I must be honest when I have something good that to say, because it is important that people knowtheir virtues. In addition when we are nice with the persons, it makes us feel it well.
Also I think that when, I do not have anything good that to say, is better that I analyze the things, if it is necessary to say someone that I am troublesome, I must do it so that I do not hurt any.
This it is my conclusion after a lot of bad experiences, I think that we never forget the that was good leard.
HELLO:
I think that is important, tell the things that we think to the other people, but we musn´t be rude for do this. We should find the correct words to tell something and so we wouldn´t hurt anybody.
Other thing, is that all ask to be honest, although we aren´t prepare for listen the truth, when the other people make us a criticism. In many cases we feel that the people offend us and we don´t accept our mistakes.
Is indispensable think and analyze how we will tell the truth to the other people without hurt their feelings. Is always important that all respect the opinions of the others and we musn´t forget to make constructive criticisms not destructive cristicisms.
HI George!!
well... i think that we have to be honest every time we can... i mean i think it´s better to tell the truth if we don´t hurt anybody when we say that
sometimes the truth can be rude and we can hurt our friends, relatives, etc. so we must think before talking and evaluate the consequences of what we are goning to say...
i´m not saying that we have to lie every time just to be "polite" but if we have to say something rude... we must try to say it in a polite way, you know "find the right words"... so it will be less hurting...
in conclusion: tell the truth... but don´t be rude... :)
bye george!!
esther
Hi teacher, well I think that everyone have regretted about something, but the most important is each of us have the opportunity to change and we have to learn about everything that already done.
What I mean is every kind of mistakes that we done sometimes are taken like a big stone on our backs, but is not the right way to grow up; the right way to could grow up is learning and making us a test, and then we could have all our answers that we already were looking for.
And talking about be honest, it works for me, sometimes my friends and my relatives didn`t understand why I acted like that, what I mean is most of the time I tell people what I feel, If I am angry I will tell you why I`m feeling like that, but it`s important to know when and with who we will be sincere and depends about what we will talking about, we know that anyone accept very well bad thing that other persons says about our selves.
Well when being honest and I mean totally honest woth someone has give result?
At less, not to me. When you are completely honest with other person whatever it is, they get hurt, or angry, mad, upset, whatever, less the reaction you will be expecting if you are telling tell truth.
A white lie it´s always useful If you don´t want to get in troubles.
Hello,
Well, It's like Jean-Paul Sartre said: "The moment you let your past behind, you will be free", you cannot always live regretting all the things that you never did o could have done. But I think is the human nature(something pretty natural) to feel guilty for something you said to someone and keep thinking on what you should have said or done in that moment.
Moreover, I believe that it is essential always be honest with people around you so you can maintain stable relationships; however, the problem with our society nowadays is not accustomed to be completly honest. In a further future we should try to live without many existential complications.
Well
I´m vey happy with myself because you don´t say I want to be intelligent, bad, pret,etc. Everyone are not happy because they want to have the best qualifications but they have the worse opinion about themselves.
In my case is different because I have a high autoestime that´s why I feel well. On the other hand my husband always tells me " Vero I love you are pretty, beautiful, intelligent, etc." The people have influenty about us but I know that is not so important. I´ am important by myself. I do the possible to be better every day.
In my opinion people should say exactly what they think about other people but without hurt his feelings, we must always tell the truth without being rude to people to avoid possible conflicts.
Sometimes when we tell the truth some people get angry because they are not ready to hear the truth and do not like to criticize them, and this makes hard say the truth, so before to say something we must thinking about the consequences of our words.
Most of the times I regret about things that I didn’t do more that things that I did, maybe that is why I prefer taking the risk. Being honest is nice, I hate when people lies to me and even if sometimes it hurts I guess is preferable to know the truth.
I have to say I’ve lied sometimes to avoid problems, I don’t regret.
I think that when a man can feel in despair or depressed sometimes custions by problems can´t resolve.
We are people reasonable and have the hability to think and we have the posibility to resolve a problem with help of the people around.
We must think and choise the better option, there is always a path correct and there is the best for us.
It is difficult to face with the consequences but this is the only way to overcome this, must reflect and get the good side to this experience, something we must learn from every situation.
Not having a clear mind causes that we have a bad mood, we are distracted, our missing energy and if we do otherwise is to stop thinking, together with our friends or relatives, will have a better attitude to life and to others
It talks about people that usually get angry at people that they love and that is because they see them as a "safety net" and it also talks about being honest is alwais the best thing to do, that way people will trust you more as a person you get a greater valve and about telling other people your secrets, i think that you need to check whon are you telling your secrets.
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Hi George¡
I tink what we all want to be and we decided not our family.
So if we can change our future, for each of us as we plan.
Instead of worry and regret, we must deal.
I don´t regret that i can do it!!!!
See you!!!
Hi!
Well, I think that the most important thing that we can get about realizing what we had done wrong is understanding and learning of our mistakes, because regret does not have sense if we don't learn of it.
In my opinion it's always better to say the truth, but always having in mind the other one's feelings, because there is a big diference between being honest and being rude.
And when we are angry we need think before displaying our anger towards someone we love, not just because they are our friends or family have to be the ones that get hurt because of our bad mood.
Hi there..
I think I really love the way I am, maybe I'm not perfect, but who is?
I know I may be a little crazy and I loose my self sometimes; I know my past is not perfect and that I even try to commit suicide but I do love all that thing that at the end made me stronger and happier than I ever dreamd off..
I enjoy my work, the school, my frind, salsa; I just found the way to do exactly what I like (study, work, dance, friends) whenever I like.
Obviously I still have some problems but they are the normal problems of a teenage girl who is starting to 'live'.
See you later.
MJ
well, as many people i do regret of sort of things i´ve done in my life. But life is all about mistakes..but the important thing is to learn about them..what would be life with out mistakes? anything is perfect... we´re humans...and we make mistakes and regret about them.
And about the whole truth thing...yes it´s a million times better to tell the truth.
truth might hurt...but it´s better than a lie....and well we must have a little of sweetness to tell the things without hurting anyone. =D
hi!
well i think that nobody in the world is perfect, I mean, we all have something to regret about but life is not about be regreting al the mistakes that we ever have done, because that's life we need to learn from our mistakes and try again. Sometimes it isn't as easy as it sounds but anyway sooner or later we all will face the fact that we still will be making mistakes and it's perfect normal thing.
We have to learn to live without regreting ourselves for the bad times, everybody has passed through rough times but i'm pretty sure we can get over it.
I don't think we should shut our mouths when something doesn't is the way we think, or when we don't agree in something, obviously it's a tiny line between telling the things that we don't agree and being rude and hurt or friends or family. I think that we all should think the things before say them because we don't want to loose anybody.
well, when I look in the mirror I feel disgusted, i hate me, i dont like to be who i am.
I am not the person who i like to be, but what can i do?
-i cant suicide because i am a coward.
I wil like to be like Rasputin or like korpiklaani vocals:
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Hi there!
First of all, I think that everyone in this piece of world, can be what ever the like to be, because we have a purpose in this life; maybe we dont like the people that we are, but we can´t change that fact, we can do a lot of good things, if we concentrate in those things that we are good, and if you don´t fall once you can give up; because you learn of you mistakes and get you a lot of maturity you can see the life in another point of view, and you can realize how wonderfull is life and if you had the chance of born again I´m definitely rhing that all the people in this worl would like to be here again.
I will always remeber the words that my mother told me once, when I ask her, If she had done a very big mistake, she would back in time, and she answer me, no because if I hadn´t made that mistake I wouldn´t be the person I´m now.
Hi, well i think that it´s very important to be a honest person, because if you are not like this, sometimes many people didn´t trust in you and i dont know but in my case when i know about this people i try to dont speak with this people because i really hate this type of person.
but i know that there are a lot of people like that, and well always and everyday we need to be with this person, and the only thing tht we can do is to be patient and try to be tolerant, or try to avoid it.
and well i think that no one is perfect but mmm i dont know we need to be a good person and also if you want to change you have to be happy and if you have a mistake we can correct and if we dont we need to continue our life.
so in the future we are going to know what can we do in this case
What's up??
Well, I must say I do regret a lot of things I've said and done in my life, but I don't think that cry or feel really sad about it is something bad, because it's just the way that feels. I think the bad thing is to suppress the feelings, if you don express and keep it all in your heart, soon or later it will be really bad and you can become a resentful person.
An anyway, when I cry, it's not because the thing I said or did, but because of the consequences, that almost always are pretty bad and sad for me.
And sooner or later, after all that crying I feel better and I say "Well I've been feeling really bad about it but what else I can do?" and if I can fix it I say "Let's try" but if I can't fix it I just try to relax and think "It's what I probably deserved and it's one lesson more to learn".
Sometimes I like the way I am, sometimes I don't. I always try to be honest but not extremely. I don't really explote with the persons I care about and when something happens to me, it's with me who I get angry with, not with someone else.
=)
What can I say? obviously i do regret things I've said and done, some more than others but we all do, but i must say that i do not live in the past and yes i may have hurt someone but sometimes you just have to say the way the things are because there is only one truth and you can't say it in other way, I'm not saying that we must be rude but we have to be honest, truth hurts right? but it doesn't kill you, besides if you care and love someone you should be honest. We should be less dramatic and more objective.
Life is all about making mistakes and learnig from them, beacuse that's the way you grow up, if we were supposed to be perfect we wouldn't be human.
i totally forgot to say: =) yes, i love the way i am and i'll no change for anybody except for me!